Common Mistakes in Child Education-1621

When we lost us, we lost our children too……

In our time, running in the school corridors, not standing properly while the national anthem was being played, and talking to the teacher without raising a hand were considered as juvenile crimes.

Or, being late for the Eid prayer, reaching out for a few candies while collecting candy, running after cars were spoken of as juvenile delinquency. What has happened to us that, as juvenile crimes, cutting his mother, threatening his father with a gun, burning a car on the street, skewering his teacher on the corner, stealing by waving at the security camera are now on the record?

Were those kids different or these kids different?

Were those parents different, were these parents different?

Were the training methods of that day different, or the training methods of today?

Where are we going wrong?

What we do is that those innocent-faced cute children growing up next to us become poisoning our world after a while.

In this book, a candle is lit to find the answers to these questions.

In child upbringing, mistakes that are thought to be right are faced.

Maybe everyone is facing themselves…

Because where we lost ourselves, we also lost our children, we know…

Preface

You know, they say it's my first eye pain...

Well, this book you are holding in your hands is one of the first books of my writing journey.

It was years ago...

I had a lot to share, about child education...

A voice inside me said, "You should write, you should share what you know about the child." says another, "What will happen if you write, who reads?" He objected...

There were notes I had taken since my university years, wouldn't it be a pity, nor had I collected them with care to share with my parents... I had observations that I had gained in Europe for many years, things to say and criticize were piling up in my mind... there were exciting information that I got from our cultural resources... Mevlânâs, Dolphins, Hacı Bektaşlar, Itriler, Haime Mothers... We had methods on how the Istanbul gentleman was brought up... He had the most precious treasures of man, such as compassion, mercy, embarrassment, and modesty. it is almost forgotten today... There were scientific articles, researches, books that I read... Moreover, I was a father; I had my mistakes in raising children, the pain of my mistakes, the joy of my truths to share...

Maybe I started to get to know the child without realizing it... The child was not a "troublemaker" as it is thought, but a weak person struggling to be human... His only support was his parents, the community of adults he would live in...

However, false images of the child created the illusion that he would be trained "like a cat"...

It had been forgotten that it was a world of emotions. For example, the child was humiliated... He was scolded for a request he made wrong, you were wrong and not knowing what the truth was yet... It was not noticed that the child could have a world of emotions.

Adults were punishing him when necessary to "make him a man" and using violence to "make him smart". And I found the boy in this noise, dazed, looking left and right.

I hurt...

I should have helped the boy, but how...

How could I change the child's misrecognition... Parents were ashamed of their children's childish behavior in the presence of their own friends... The society was also embarrassing the parents by saying, "Look how he raised a child..." I should have tried to explain that the boy was not something to be ashamed of, that he was a rookie little person...

I don't know who would listen to me... What could I say to adults today, when it's not a shame to try to educate a child with punishment, it has become a tradition?

Well... I should have written it... and here's this book you're holding in your hands, and I've clumsily penned it.

At first I was very strange, "What is this man saying?" saying...

I was criticized... I felt alone in front of a huge society...
But day after day, "Don't be afraid, the child is fine." Those who believed in his word made themselves good with the child when they started to be friends with the child... It was a different pleasure to be a child with a child. If they tasted it, they offered a hand to other parents saying "come and be a child too"...

A "child friendly" story has started in our country...

Looking back, the water little information book sold over 100,000 copies; more importantly, I see that the books I write afterwards build the courage.

It is exciting to talk today that "trying to be a man with punishment" is not the only and valid education method...

The child is a cherished guest, to stay "for a while" in the parents' house... When that process is over, the guests leave the house. When parents come back and remember how they treated their cherished guests, they shouldn't be embarrassed, they shouldn't feel shame or regret...

Whoever respects his saintly guest and guides him to learn the world voluntarily, he wins his child...

With the desire to live in a world where acquired children exist...

CONTENTS

thanks 9

Preface 11

Embryo Psychology 15

What is genetic character? 15

psychological character 16

Embryo psychology 16

Secret Between Mother and Child 19

The importance of the first hours 21

The characteristics of the child are recorded in the subconscious 21

skin, eyes, smell 22

Is Breast Milk Necessary? 25

breast milk 25

Breast milk, everything for the baby 27

Breast milk prevents cancer 29

The connection of breast milk with oral health 29

Breastfeeding and the adaptation process 30

A Child Should Get Love When He Needs It 33

love when needed 34

Moms stuck between the office and the nursery 35

Emotional intimacy 36

Nursery or grandma? 36

That's Why Some "Spoiled" 39

Being "disliked" 40

The absence of mother's love

It also leads to not being able to love their children 40

One must be able to face oneself 41

Irrelevant Child Syndrome 43

Risk for some mothers 43

What should be done? 44

"Adomic" Parents 47

Addiction or inability to prepare for social life? 48

As the child makes mistakes, he gains experience 49

A few dangers awaiting the child of the dependent parent 50

"Addiction" brings chaos, "attachment" brings peace 51

Pink Dads, Shrewd Moms 53

Being a mother like a mother and a father like a father
The father is the representative of authority in the family 54

Mother is the representative of compassion, the balance element 55

Not "Friends"; Dad Like "Daddy" 59

Where are the fathers now? 60

Very intense dad fashion! 62

Behavioral disorders are seen in fatherless children 62

Are Child Education and Child Education the same? 65

Is a well-educated child well-trained? 65

So what is "child discipline"? 66

No "Child Dressing" Without Recognition 69

The story of Şahin's transformation into a cowardly crow 69

Rediscover your child 71

Should success or failure be the measure? 73

The mother knows the child best 74

Is a Smart Well-Being Child a Well-Behaved Child? 77

Remember The Child Is A Child! 81

Play is an Important "Work" for the Child 87

The game is not the game 88

"Come on, go play some!" 89

To stall or to play? 90

Playing with a child takes skill 90

The child is the master of the game he plays 91

The game is aimless 91

Adem Not fashionable, child-friendly toy 92

sun ^ less than moon 93

up to 2 years 93

after 3 years 93

3-5 years old 94

6-8 years old 94

9-11 years old 95

12 years and over 95

The Real Danger Is Not A Toy Gun 97

Abnormal behavior is transmitted quickly 98

The sign of the broken points in the child's world 99

How should children be kept away from toy guns? one hundred

Virtual Games Lead to Violence 103

"I will kill all of you!" 104

"half-real" life with virtual responsibility 105

Virtually Transmitting Mental Illness 109

internet technology is not innocent 110

Parents beware 111

Don't Quench Your Child's Anger 113

Anger regulates social life 114

Anger protects children from abuse 114

Isn't it harmful if anger is not prevented? 115

Anger is poison, conscience is the antidote 116

Conscience and anger balance 117

The child is the echo of the parents 119

Parents' conscience is the seed of children's conscience.

Excuse kills conscience 121

Sensitivity feeds the conscience 123

Lying Is Conscience Conscience 125

Lying stems from the need to protect the personality 125

Lying is a learned behavior 128

Children's world and lie 129

What should be done about the child who lies? 130

Fear and Preparation for Life in Children 133

Fear is a natural process.

horror rehearsals 134

Sex Education or Privacy Education? 139

Unwanted pregnancy and fear of contagious disease 141

What is the difference between sex education and privacy education? .... 142

Privacy Training 147

Basic Behavior Reflex at what age and

How should it be introduced? 148

Sister is "Kuma" of Sister 153

jealousy is in his blood 153

Destroyed emotions initiate jealousy 154

Treating children equally breeds envy 154

Injustice breeds envy 156

Injustice, distrust;

insecurity also triggers jealousy 156

Loss of status and jealousy 157

Age difference between children plays a role in jealousy 157

"He has eyes just like his father" 158

Is My Child Active or Hyperactive? 161

What is ADHD? 161

What are the salient features of ADHD? 162

How does ADHD occur? 163

Is there a cure for ADHD? 164

One last piece of advice

Mom, Where Is God? 167

The bogeyman growing in the subconscious 168

If there is God in every heart, how many "He"? 169

Don't Scare Your Child With Allah 171

Challenging Process: Toilet Training 175

Toilet training brings mother and child closer

Toilet habit is mostly psychological 179

What can be done in practice? 179