Secure Attach-1627

Secure Connection

Number of Pages: 185

Skin Condition: Paperback

Preface

When we took our first child in our arms, we never thought that parents were so responsible. Yet, nine hundred years ago, Epictetos made the final point for all of us by saying, "The motherland of a man is his childhood. 1" Obviously, it took our time to grasp this fact. Pedagogue Adem Güneş Bey's books and radio programs always accompanied us on this difficult path. We learned a lot thanks to what we read and listened to. Our only goal was not to disturb our child's sense of trust while we were moving forward with a dream, but with enthusiasm. Fortunately, nowadays, when our second daughter is born, we now have a bedside book where we can find answers to all our questions.

I think this work is for not only parents who want to educate themselves, but also adults who find the courage to start everything over. How to appreciate the perfectly created man in essence; It tells how an immature baby slowly becomes attached to his mother, father, family, environment and then life.

I hope Secure Attachment opens new doors in your life and contributes to your parenting consistency.

I wish everyone good reading ...

Tuba Kabacaoğlu


CONTENTS

Getting Started 11

Preface 13

Life Consists of Attachments 15

Connectivity 17

'Sense of Trust' is the Core of Attachment 25

Not feeling the senses 28

Attachment and Resist Attachment 30

Attachment and Will Relations 32

Mind Power 35

Connecting by 3 Contact 36

Skin contact 37

Eye contact 38

Contact with sound 39

The Basis of Attachment: Sleeping with the Mother AO

Babies Sleeping with Moms Get More Peaceful 44

46 If I Hurt My Baby When Lying Together

Does Sleeping With A Baby Damage Her Intimacy? 48

The Magical Link Between Mother and Child: Sucking 49

Secure Attachment Relationship with Nursing 51

Under Which Conditions Should A Pacifier Be Used? 55

Everyday Opportunities for Attachment 57

Secure Attachment and Disease 58

The Father's Role in the Secure Attachment Period 59

Breaking with Mom 63

First Stage: Weaning 64

Second Stage: Toilet Habit 66

Third Stage: Getting Out of Bed 67

Stage Four: Separation from the Room 71

"On Time and Sufficiently" 75

The Mother's Difficulty To Empathize 76

Modern Life and Motherhood 76

Punctual Babies! 80

Meeting the needs "Enough" 82

Neglect, Abuse and Violence 83

Why Does a Mother Violate Her Child? 90

Sense of Inadequacy 90

Mother's Childhood Years 90

Being Self-centered 91

If There Is No Joy Of Living 92

Mom Should Get Sufficient Sleep 92

Having Children in Older Years 93

Psychological Violence, Emotional Violence 93

The Search for a "Port of Shelter" 97

Disrupting the Temperament-Disruption 105

Abuse and Negligence Disrupts the Fitra 108

The Main Purpose Is Not To Teach Behavior 110

Temperament Reveals Needs 111

Insight and Clairvoyance for a Balanced Life 115

What is Insight? 115

The Relationship of Insight to Clairvoyance 119

Penetration, Insight and Clairvoyance 122

Freedom in Emotion, Discipline in Behavior 124

Harmony 125

Those Who Have No Feeling Are Impatient 127

Parents Should Not Turn Off The Inquisition of Children 130

Hear the Opposite 135

Empathy 135

The Relationship Between Empathy and Worthlessness-Guilt 137

Auras and Personality Violations 140

"Atmosphere" 147

Gossiping at Home 147

"Yes, My Mother Is Wrong" 149

"This Outfit Does Not Look For You" 150

Parents Should Not Be Offended 150

"Even If You Treat Me Badly, I Love You So Much" 151

Breaking the Emotional Bond 151

Childhood Feelings Don't Let You Go 152

Crustification of the Atmosphere: Belonging 153

"Lose" 161

Confidence is a Process, Not a Result 161

Maternal Courage 164

Connecting with Trust Feeling 168

The Relationship Between Attachment and Belonging 172

Loss of Gained Confidence 173

When Confidence Is Lost 176

Behavior and Personality Must Separate 180

Final Word: Am I Late for Everything? 183

Notes 186